Divorcing a Narcissist

I have heard many horror stories about divorcing a narcissist, not only online, but from friends of mine who have divorced their narcissistic husbands. I must admit that when I was faced with my divorce, I was extremely concerned.

Once I had made my mind up to leave, I spoke with a highly respected estate planning attorney and asked him for a referral. He recommended the law firm of Woodward, Pires and Lombardo, and that’s how I found Ken Mundy.

I connected with Ken immediately. He was extremely knowledgeable about family law, thorough with his questioning, patient with my lack of knowledge regarding the law and compassionate. I could tell immediately that he was a man with strong morals and values, that was important to me.

What to know when you are facing a divorcing a narcissist…

• Hire an attorney that specializes in family law (extremely important)
• When interviewing the attorney, make sure that he/she has the same morals and values as you do
• Document everything and I mean everything
• Remove anything of value that is yours from the house (good advice from my attorney)
• Make sure that your finances are in order and you have cash on hand
• Protect your financial assets prior to your departure
• Expect the narcissist to play games and lie about their income
• When negotiating, start by asking for much more than you are willing to settle with
• Do not fight over insignificant belongings, this will only drive the cost of your divorce up
• Settle during mediation if at all possible
• Only speak with the narcissist when absolutely necessary
• If children are involved keep them out of the mess as much as possible
• When communicating with the narcissist show no emotion and don’t be defensive
• Be very matter of fact with the narcissist when you speak with them and don’t fall for their traps and manipulation
• Establish a visitation schedule through the court if children are involved
• Find a support group to help you heal
• Seek therapy for you and your child/children if you can afford it
• Most churches offer free counseling, but I have found that they don’t understand narcissistic abuse
• Require all communication to be in writing via a parenting app, email or text messaging
• Set strong boundaries with the narcissist

If you are in the SW Florida area, and are facing a divorce, I highly recommend Ken Mundy with the law firm Woodward, Pires & Lombardo, P.A. He exceeded my expectations! I walked away with exactly what I wanted, and what I felt was fair for both parties. During mediation, he was polite, yet determined to protect my best interest. The mediator even committed on how well Ken knew family law and how calm we both were. During mediation I set back and watched Ken strategically direct the path to get us where we wanted to be. His brain is like a machine, wicked fast, it was fascinating to watch him work. He is extremely gifted at what he does and I feel blessed to have had him represent me.

During my divorce process I felt like Ken truly cared and wanted the absolute best for me. He fought for me like I was a family member and I could not have been any happier with the outcome.

Ken is a Certified Financial Litigator specializing in family and marital law, including but not limited to, complex divorces, child custody disputes, child support and alimony issues, relocation, paternity actions and domestic violence proceedings. Ken is committed to protecting, educating, and guiding each client through the difficult and challenging processes associated with family law matters. In every case, Ken ensures his clients are put in a position to make decisions in the best interest of themselves and their families, while also maintaining their dignity and self-respect.

Hiring the right attorney is key to having a successful and smooth divorce.